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A Holiday To Remember
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 How to infuse breathing space amid your togetherness.
You know they say, 'The grass is always greener on the side of the fence.' Well, it would appear that more and more couples and singles ascribe to this viewpoint in the context of holidays. How's that?
These days, while so many singles lament the holiday season as they fear feeling lonely or being eyed at, at parties for being the odd one out, an equal number of couples long to take a break alone.
Holiday alone or together?
Does that sound strange? If you think of it, this desire to holiday alone stems from the fact that partners nowadays believe they as it is, have to 'adjust' or 'bend' so much to keep their relations alive. Then more adjustment during holidays just seems like the last straw, hardly a holiday!
Does this imply that partners should holiday alone? If so, doesn't this concept put paid to the idea of family holidays?
Let's put things in the right perspective. A holiday must feel so - that is, as freedom from monotony - for both partners (and kids) if it is to serve the purpose of being a refreshing break.
Will kids dampen your holiday plans?
So say, if a wife spends all her time baby-sitting while hubby darling is out on the golf course from dawn to dusk, she hasn't enjoyed a holiday even if the break was a week-long (or longer) affair. Quite the contrary, she may return from the holiday feeling extremely resentful towards her husband for his selfishness. So much for the money splashed on the stay at the 5-star (or whatever) golfing resort!
Children can be a real dampener on a holiday. During school time, they are partially kept busy at school, engaged in extra-curricular activities, and playing or doing their home-work at home. But the same kids need to be entertained 24x7 during a holiday - and that is no mean feat!
So what should a couple do? Rather than take a long family holiday, it would be easier on everyone if the couple could have a 3-4 day break alone. This may entail requesting the help of grandparents or close relatives. Alternatively, try and book a holiday destination that has certified child-minders who could keep your children busy while you bond with your partner, or do your own thing.
Holiday = Time to do your own thing
In the worst case scenario, couples that simply cannot get away from their kids, yet desperately need to unwind could consider going for long week-end breaks alone.
Now here's another interesting point. There is a growing trend of childless partners desiring to holiday alone. Evidently, bonding with their mate is something they do on a regular basis and hence get enough of. Or should we say, too much of!
Such solo travelers look to make the most of their time, by indulging in pastimes that they (and usually not the partners) enjoy. For instance, a woman who loves shopping for trinkets would enjoy the opportunity to indulge without her husband fidgeting and cutting short her browsing through goodies. Likewise, a husband's idea of a good time may be roughing it out at a campsite or trekking, the very thinking of which may give his wife shivers.
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