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Lone rangers
A salute to all single moms
For a single mother, it is Mother's Day all through the year. But, today, on this very special day, Shaaditimes wants to salute all those mothers who have singlehandedly taken up the uphill task of managing their dilapidated lives. How did they manage it? What were the odds that they faced? Were there any financial crunches? How did they help their children cope with the situation?
ShaadiTimes asks our brave mothers...
A two bedroom apartment, a son aged nine, a financial crunch, family pressures and a divorce. This is what Ria's life was eight years ago. Today, she is a successful mother with a stable career as a teacher and a grown up son who is independent. How did she make it there? "I took it up as a challenge. I had no other way out. I had to leave my husband because that was the only way my son and I would be able to lead a happy life." Her son is 17 years old today and very proud of his mother.
Ofcourse, Ria's journey was no smooth ride. "People are not very kind to single moms. Many asked embarrassing questions, my son too was going through a rough emotional phase, and living in an expensive city like Mumbai can be financially difficult. The only silver lining for all these years was the fact that I was out of a relationship wherein I was abused, humiliated and battered. In comparison this was manageable. I need to tell all those in similar circumstances that just have the courage and grit and life is not so bad after all."
Today's woman seems to be doing a good job. She may be single by choice or single by faith. But, she crosses the hurdle in any case.
A lot of Indian women have done it. And they do not seem to be affected by this at all. Dimple Kapadia, Neena Gupta, Sarika and Pooja Bedi are some success stories the world has seen. Pooja Bedi has said in an interview to a website that she takes pride in the fact that she is an independent, working and a good mother to her two children. "It is of course a juggling act and children are my first priority. They are growing up beautifully and I wish that I had more time on hand to spend with them. I wish to execute with perfection and satisfaction all the roles that I play- be it the role of a mother, a housekeeper or a friend."
But, it is not only the celebrity moms who are emerging winners in this battle. Today, there are millions  of single mother's in the world who are doing an equally fantastic job with their responsibilities.
Says Asha Lakhani, a teacher by profession, who lost her husband twelve years ago in an accident, "My son was 17 and my daughter was only 10. I was on my way to Nasik with my daughter when we heard the news that my husband had met with an accident. My son matured overnight. He took on a whole lot of responsibilities. On the other hand, my daughter was confused. She had too many questions to ask. But, she put up a brave front. She began looking after me. She stopped going down to play with her friends. That was when I realised that I had to put my life together again and look after my children before it was too late." Asha's family was a nuclear one. There were no grandparents and their world consisted of only the four of them. Speaking about herself, she says, "I was absolutely dependent on my husband. I just could not function without him. But, I received a lot of family support. They were my pillar of strength." She did not face a financial crunch, but she realised that she would have to do something to keep herself occupied. That is when she took up a job as a pre-school teacher. Today, her son is married and her daughter is engaged.
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