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Love » Triple-speak » Ego-related-sexuality-061219
 
Is the ego related to sexuality? Urvashi Sharma Pranav I. Sheth Deepak Malekar Urvashi Sharma, Model
You have to be in love with someone first of all to engage in something physical. I believe you have to see the person with "no ego". To me this means no attitude. I think everyone wishes to have a serious relationship, which is selfless, where there is no control or feelings of obsession. Men should and can understand that women today are aware of their rights. They should let them "be". This means a man has to be able to trust a woman completely and vice-versa to keep the relationship healthy (sexual) with no egos involved. I think Indian men are a little controlling with their girlfriends and wives. And I don't think you can force either a woman or a man to stay committed in a relationship- meaning physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and that's why many relationships today fail. This is because of "ego" and not being able to trust the other and one's self completely.

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Pranav I. Sheth, MD, General Practitioner
Ego and sexuality have been discussed since the time of Freud and are nothing new to the formula of relationship between the sexes. Personally, I feel it depends on age to age, and whether you are in "love" with the person. This is something individual and the criterion of love is limitless so to discuss this in absolutes and with objectivity is difficult. Everything, I feel depends on life-style especially as one's age progresses and one ages. I think if a person is undertaking an extra-marital affair obviously there is no ego involved as the relationship is traditionally sexual based. In India, "ego" is the most important thing when entering a serious relationship. At least that is what I have observed. Women that are wives will always involve ego in their relationships with their husband. If something is going array in the relationship chances are it will affect their sex life as well. For singles the configuration is different as they are dating and don't have formal ties per se to adhere to. Yet "ego" would be involved, I feel, before youth would engage in sex. I don't think anyone is that frivolous to have a sexual experience without some emotional feelings from one and other.

Deepak Malekar, Businessman
This is an intellectual question which can be confusing and with no right or wrong answers. Obviously there is a unity between the "ego" and one's sexuality. This can be compared to the way one views mind and matter. If your mind and matter are in sync you will probably have a normal, healthy, sexual relationship. If they are not then there could be problems in the relationship. I think everything in life is dependent on stress and if your stress levels are unusually high it will affect your "ego"-mind and your body the way you approach your inter-personal relationships with people. In India, women have been revered through our religion, society, and culture so I don't think any woman in India would engage in physical activity without "ego" unless she was forced into it.

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