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'Each generation is a new people,' observed Alexis de Tocqueville.
This being the case ShaadiTimes takes a ring-side view at three generations- kal, aaj aur kal . How different is Gen X from their parents and grandparents? On what issues do they differ most and on what least?
Every generation is a melting pot of different kinds of people. Attitudes, mindsets and ideologies reflect each generation's interpretation of life.
In triple speak no one generation is either right or wrong. It is a point of view.
What infuriates crimes of passion?
Year 1959
Commander Nanavati was in a rage when he asked his wife's paramour Prem Ahuja, "Will you marry my wife and look after my children?" Ahuja, moments away from death, replied: "Am I bound to marry every woman I sleep with?" The naval officer fired, killing the businessman on the spot.
May 31, 2004
Sarita from Meerut was having an affair that was discovered by her husband. Least regretful Sarita killed her husband in connivance with her paramour and his accomplices.
June 7, 2004
Ramesh Narayan stabbed his former girlfriend Vineeta Bhaire (17) when she refused to meet him as she was getting engaged to someone else.
July 30, 2004
Mohsina (23), who wanted to get married to her lover, got her husband killed with the help of her neighbour.
August 05, 2004
Bikash Mondal, businessman, electrocuted his wife's lover after she ignored his pleas to stop her extra-marital affair.
October 22, 2004
B Chennappa (35) suspected his wife was having an affair. He doused his children (he suspected they were not his) with kerosene and set them on fire. Having done that, he killed himself.
October 30, 2004
A rejected Sachin Chauhan (23) attacked Ranjini Panicker's parents, killing the father. Two days later Sachin committed suicide.
November 5, 2004
Raja Yadav (23) got a friend to hurl sulphuric acid at his neighbour Uma Vamane (16) because she repeatedly turned down his marriage proposal.
November 29, 2004
Spurned-in-love Rahul Solanki (29) hired somebody to throw acid on Jigna Patel because she refused to talk to him.
December 8, 2004
Neelima murdered her husband of 8 years with the help of a servant with whom she had been having an affair.
December 15, 2004
Jilted lover, Lakshmi Singh, poured kerosene in the fireplace in the girl's house. 13 people of the girl's family were burnt to death.
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Laura Vaz, psychoanalyst:
Ours is a society in transition and there is not one but multiple reasons that may have contributed to the crimes of passion.
To think about it, we have to see that youngsters are open to crime these days. Lifestyle crimes, i.e., crimes committed for money to improve their lifestyle, are on a rise like never before. The reason is simple, we are exposed to violence through cable television much more than we were prior to 90's. Greed, low tolerance level, readiness to indulge in offence, access to ideas, change in values, aping the west without thinking, depression, desperation and high frustration level, all of these factors together combine and lead people to heinous crimes.
Relationship angle makes us think that many fail to understand the difference between possessiveness and love.
They can never be the same. Also the exposure to the news of one crime of passion may activate a few more minds to act on such ideas in their life. Most of the time, it is the ego that is hurt and it leads to anger and finally anger transforms into power and position demonstration. Hence, most of the time it's the men who execute such crimes and not the women. Though I do not dismiss the possibility that women may want to do it as well. But the traditional mindset of the society does not allow a man to take 'No' for an answer from a woman. He assumes that she has no right to decision. If he proposes a woman, that means she has to say yes. If her answer is no then she should be ready to face the wrath. But here it's not a scorned lover... it's a scorned ego. Take for example the stalking cases... they demonstrate the same ego and anger tussle in one's mind.
We have to be more understanding and compassionate. If your love is true, you will let him/her go and not try to hold him/her back for yourself. That is possessiveness and not true love.
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