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Black Is Back - With A Vengeance
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 Do couples always have to be casual with each other, or is there room for formal-play too?
Much has been said about the 'little black dress' - it's formal, it's usually slinky, it suggests a refined attitude, it's always sexy and the guys simply love it. On a more desi note, a black chiffon sari would probably match up with the little black dress.
So where lies the connection between the little black dress and a marriage, you may well ask?
Fact is - black outfits are usually worn for formal night occasions. Black symbolizes a formal approach. Now formality per se can be a tad overwhelming and out of place. But another word for formality is etiquette and good manners. And every marriage can do with shoals of etiquette, as Neena learnt.
Neena and Ravi had an arranged marriage seven years ago. Today, they're both very well settled in their respective careers and have a five years old son - Nikhil. Ravi works for a leading hospitality company and Neena is an advertising professional.
On the personal front too, they're very happy with each other. Ravi's widowed mother lives with them - her presence makes looking after young Nikhil very easy. Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law get along very well. In fact - outsiders often comment on their seemingly picture perfect life. But Ravi had a bone of contention until some time back...
In the absence of black
You see - although Neena was very accurate in her work and in managing and giving the best to all her relationships, she also had a very casual dress sense. Perhaps this stemmed from working for over a decade in the advertising line? An ace copywriter, she could get by at her workplace in faded jeans and T-shirt. No one minded, as she always delivered and infrequently met clients. In any case, even when she made presentations, she usually did so in a long skirt and top - which was somewhat bohemian but the quality of her ideas and their delivery more than made up for her attire.
Of course, Ravi's work is entirely different. He needs to dress formally whenever he is at work, and even more so, if that were possible at office parties. The problem that kept recurring in their marriage related to these social-cum-work affairs.
Neena was always happy to accompany Ravi, but either (or both) always flared up when it came to her choice of clothes. She preferred fusion wear, while Ravi knew the dress code for women at such occasions is the sari.
Somehow - even after seven years, Neena had not realized that her casual dress sense embarrassed Ravi, and even held him back from networking with senior bosses (and thus working his way to more promotions?).
Etch no habits in permanent black ink
Ravi had pleaded and cajoled with her, but to no avail. To be fair to Neena, she just hadn't realized the importance of attire. She believed that Ravi was great in his work, and that was enough to guarantee him regular promotions - as had been the case with her.
Fortunately for Ravi, her thinking changed. During one such affair, Neena had gone out for some fresh air to the patio of the mansion-like property where a formal party was underway. On the way back, she almost turned a corner, when she heard her name and slowed down.
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