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Meet each other more than halfway: 60-60
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Dare to delight. Surprise one another. "I was thinking about you" kind of way.
Promote independence. You don't have to eat everything with the same spoon. There will be some things you want to do that he doesn't - and vice versa.
Celebrate. Always look for an opportunity for merriment: anniversaries, birthdays, and small victories… like when you finally pay on time all your monthly telephone bills!
Stay in the sack. After the wedding, and a few glasses of wine, one of Hema's older sisters said, "The key to a happy marriage was lots and lots of sex. Nobody likes to argue when they are naked."
Seek out the experts. Most people agree that communication is paramount to a healthy relationship. But if you struggle with discussing a particularly touchy subject, bring in a third party. A detached "authority" can facilitate good talks - even if it means wrangling him into reading this column or writing / speaking to a professional.
Make me, me, me, me. Help each other be more of the person they are. You will never change him, but you can draw out the best that's already there. (Yes, you do remember the best parts; call his mother if you need someone to jog your memory.)
Protect his big antlers. So he's hanging out at the bar, making plans with the guys for a weekend poker party that's going to be "really great!" No matter how tempted you are, don't remind him in front of his friends that he is a terrible gambler and he can't spend the dough because he promised to save for that super-neat washing machine you've been wanting. Hold the comments until you are in private.
Surely there are plenty more bits of advice. Even the enormity of the Internet cannot contain the amount of knowledge you need to build a happy duo. But this list is a start.
And in case you were wondering, Hema successfully joined the newlywed club, we hope she is on her way to becoming a lifetime member.
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