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'Sex' is still a taboo word in India - the land of Kamasutra, which incidentally is also the country recording the highest population in the world. Pre-marital sex or even the idea of testing sexual compatibility before marriage may lead to the couple being ostracized by orthodox Indian society. In a country in which arranged marriages largely predominate over love marriages, and the bride often has to have to have sex with her newly wed husband who is still a complete stranger. Though most Indian married couples do seem to have an active sex life they hardly discuss their sexual preferences, likes and dislikes. Do Indians really work upon making their life pleasurable? And is it important to test sexual compatibility before marriage?

Sexual compatibility may be defined as 'you and your partner being on a similar sexual level, that your affinity of the sexual be in and of the same range, and your sex drives are in close proximity of one another's.' Will a marriage be in jeopardy if the couple discover that they are completely sexually incompatible? Says model / actor Aryan Vaid, "Marriage is not all about sex but nevertheless sex is a very important part of it, which we simply can't ignore. If a couple discovers that they are not sexually compatible after marriage the marriage would be a nightmare. I'm definitely not encouraging promiscuity but I am quite open to live-in relationships." Agrees 22-year-old Vivek Menon, "Sexual compatibility is very essential for any successful marriage. It is important to understand the potential of the physical intimacy between two people or it could cause serious problems post marriage. Differing levels of libido, indulgence in fetishes or even how important sex is to each of the partners are important areas of concern.
I think sex plays an important part of any romantic relationship. Love is not only about candlelight dinners and poetry, physical intimacy is very important."

For those who believe that sexual compatibility can be ascertained through horoscope matching, psycho-astrologer Badal Suchak explains, "The placement of Mars and Venus in an individual's horoscope would describe the person's sexual needs and preferences, whereas in the compatibility chart their placements and aspects would describe the sexual compatibility of the couple. The constellation in which the Moon is placed is also important. It helps in figuring out the 'Yoni ' and 'Naadi ' of the individual and whether they are compatible with the prospective partner. 'Yoni ' describes the sexual habits of the individual and 'Naadi ' of the couple shows the chances of bearing healthy offspring by their union. In a marriage the importance of sexual compatibility is relative depending upon individual needs and maturity. Moreover, love and understanding between the couple can withstand any adversity. Gemstones can be prescribed only after a detailed study of the horoscopes of a couple, as sexual incompatibility has many facets and varied implications; so each individual would need a different gemstone to help in resolving the issue. In general, to bring about harmony in relationships, I prescribe Gauri-Shankar Rudraksha, which helps in bringing about a balance of the inner Feminine and Masculine aspects of the individual and thereby as an external manifestation of inner harmony helps in creating conjugal bliss."