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Is your spouse your best friend?
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 You eat, sleep and vow to live your life with him. He is your lover, your friend and nobody knows you better than him. Or do they? It's clichéd to say, "My husband / wife is my best friend." Though we may all have loved to believe it, in most cases this is not true. In real life we find such rosy pictures very rarely. Isn't this very strange? May be therefore some wise man said, "Truth is stranger than fiction."
Your friend, on the other hand, has seen you when you had the first crush and the first heart break, when you lost a competition, when you got your first job and when you were stuck in a rotten job. Sometimes it so happens that you marry your best friend and he becomes your husband. So does the friendship equation change after marriage and you seek a new best friend? Let's hear it from the horse's mouth!!
Subir has been married for over a year now to Surekha. Their's was an arranged marriage. "If a best friend is defined as a person who would be by your side through thick and thin and a person to whom you would turn for help during the trying times, then I can say that my wife is my best friend. But if a best friend is defined as a person with whom you can share everything, then I don't really have a best friend. Just as I don't discuss about home and family with my friends / colleagues, I don't share the problems of office and to some extent financial matters with my wife. I don't want to burden her with unnecessary tensions that I can handle myself. Also I don't discuss about my first love or some family secrets with my wife as I know she might be hurt or might misunderstand me," says Subir.
Rakhi and Rahul had 4 years of courtship and even after 10 years of marriage Rakhi feels that Rahul is not her best friend. "Till I got married I did not know that Rahul has such a huge ego. After 5 years of marriage I went through a very bad phase of relationship with my husband. Though Rahul knew that I was upset and needed his support he always blamed me for the situation. He has this attitude that he is always right...he never said sorry. At that point I seriously considered to get away from the relationship. I even visited a marriage counselor but I did not let Rahul know about this. I simply did not have the guts to tell him because I knew he would not give me the custody of our son. It is for the sake of my son that I reconsidered my decision. My friends were by my side at that time. I could pour my heart before them and cry. I could not share this with even my mother because I did not want her to be upset for me. She always knew that I am leading a very happy life," said Rakhi.
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