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Rising in love
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Falling in love
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In my last article, I discussed the commonly known phenomenon of "falling in love" which mainly arises out of emotional dependency. We need to ask ourselves a question, "Is it possible to rise in love?" If yes, than what is it like to rise in love and how different is it from the fall in love? What is this experience of rising in love like?
We fall in love, if we get emotionally dependent on someone and it begins to look like that you can not live without that person, as if he holds the strings of your emotions and thoughts. The seed of falling in love is the insufficiency and incompletion one experiences in oneself. On the contrary, rising in love happens between people who are self sufficient and complete in themselves. In such a state love simply becomes an expression of overflowing with life, which is so blissful to share with someone. In real love both the partners are whole and complete and they are not seeking anything from the other. They simply share their ecstasy, love and joy with the other.
Who is the true love? He / she is the one who can help you to move on to the journey of your own completion and not the one who tries to make you dependent on him. Such a relationship can only lead to freedom, where you love each other as a free choice and not as a compulsion to survive. There is no fear in such love that the other will move away, as both are complete in themselves. However, every moment they choose to live with each other, so as to share and celebrate their lives. This is how the adventures to that world of mystery and bliss begins, which are truly ecstatic. This is the state, when you truly begin to become soul mate, a state where your soul meets and become one.
Isn't such state of love in complete contrast with the state of emotional dependency? Since lovers are complete in themselves, they are no more trying to bind the other into chains. Fear of loosing the other gives way to sharing and support for the other to grow. Whole energy gets invested in diving deep into the mysteries of life and unfolding of new sources of intelligence. Any couple in such a relationship will experience the world with a totally different perspective, as the survival issues of life gives way to celebrations. There is no more pain and bondage but only the joy and freedom. Such a deep love awakens the ultimate source of creativity and their hidden talents begin to flower. One begins to trust life and enjoy it's uncertainty. Now they have begun to migrate into the world of soul from the boundaries of bodies.
As it has become so habitual for us to live in the world of pain and survival, it becomes difficult to trust that the beautiful and charismatic world of soul which is available to us. You may have a question at this point- How do we experience love? Does it require some esoteric and challenging practices? No. Far from it. Love is a very natural state and as we relax into ourselves, it is easy to dive deep into such divine experiences. And to experience the divinity you must appreciate your space and your local space. You might trying to enjoy your natural surroundings, participate at the community league or go for a walk or take in a latte and read the paper at the local bistro. Enjoy your alone time and your together time will be guaranteed to succeed. In the next article, I will be discussing simple ways of accessing this beautiful world of love and freedom.
Does the bondage of emotional dependence makes you frustrated at times? Have you experienced those moments of melting in the deep bliss of love, where neither past nor future exists? Please send in your experiences, comments, questions and suggestions.
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Shivo
The playful mystic
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