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Why is there a craze for NRI grooms?
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Film director, Nagesh Kukunoor whose critically acclaimed film Hyderabad Blues deals with Indian girls desperate to marry NRIs says, "For women who want to marry U.S. grooms it is in the search of a prettier, better and more materially comfortable world. They think that the grass is always greener on the other side. I hope that NRI men want to get married to Indian women for some level of commonality and not because they just want a subservient wife.
| Amrita Kaur, a fashion design student in New Delhi can't still come to terms with her ill fate. Her NRI husband from Canada just spent two weeks of conjugal life with her in India and left for Canada never to return. Amrita was further tortured by her in-laws for dowry and has taken her case to the Crimes Against Women division of the Indian police and has held her husband accountable. (Source: The Asia Pacific Post) |
Indian grooms who want to marry NRI girls are usually the ones with non-technical degrees. The U.S. mostly recruits engineers from India otherwise it is difficult to go. So marrying an NRI girl is the only way out for these men if they want to relocate to the U.S. However over the last five years the craze to immigrate to the U.S. has relatively simmered down. Enough capitalism has come to India and the standard of living has improved.
Indian jobs are offering much higher pay scales and many of the goods which were banned into coming to India from the West are available in many stores. What I wanted to show in my sequel to Hyderabad Blues is that the NRI bride hunt process is much more streamlined now. I showed that there are people who do NRI matchmaking as a legitimate business in India. There are marriage bureaus which keep computer files of all the information."
| Satnam Parmar, a 38 year old drug store supervisor in Canada married Karmjeet Jaswal, a school teacher in India after a four-day courtship. A year later after Karmjeet's visa was processed; Jaswal was at Edmonton International Airport to greet his wife. To his horror Karmjeet blandly told him that she didn't love him and would not consummate the marriage. She had simply married Parmar so that she could come to Canada and later bring her mother and nephews along. (Source: The Asia Pacific Post) |
However not all girls want to relocate abroad through marriage but prefer living in India. Says 27 year old Sanchita Ray, a teacher in Kolkata, "I don't want to marry an NRI because I am too much in love with India. I honestly feel that we live only once and it would be foolish and heartless to live away from our near and dear ones even if the West promises all sorts of comforts and luxuries that India cannot perhaps offer.
Admittedly, I would also feel quite insecure in an alien land with foreigners. I feel that if I am destined to achieve anything in life, I can do so in my native land and don't have to settle in a foreign country to do so. I also fear that an NRI groom may be disrespectful towards typical Indian traditions and culture. And what if he has had affairs with foreign girls which he has kept secret?"
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