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How To Make A Man Want To Marry You
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I once found myself bang in the middle of a lover's tiff between a good friend of mine and his girlfriend. They had just been on a vacation and both came back more than a little irritated with one another.
It turns out that he didn't like the fact that they spent the better part of their vacation shopping, to which his girlfriend responded that he found plenty of time to look at other women. So how come I was involved in their fight? Well... you guessed it; they had turned to me for advice!
I was hardly the expert when it came to relationships but since they had asked me, this is the gist of what I said to them - "Every relationship (without any exceptions) is going to encounter certain problems. Regardless of the nature of these problems, only two things can happen. Either you will manage to overcome the issues and your relationship will be that much stronger, or the problems will be bigger than what you can handle, in which case you'll probably break up."
I too have lived with this same relationship philosophy all my life and am happily into the eleventh year of marriage. As for my friend, he married his girlfriend and they too have been in a great marriage since the last 15 years. Yes, they face problems every now and then but what doesn't break them will make them stronger.
So, what are some of the issues that can make or break a relationship? What are the things that men will fight for and things that will just make them give up on you?
- Relationship Maker 1: Give him his Freedom
If a man feels constricted in any relationship, or if he feels that all his freedom has been taken away from him, he will not want to push through when things get tough. Yes, men know that they have to give up a little bit of their independence when they get married, that's only natural. But if they can't spend even a little time with their friends without their women, or if they have to consult their wives every time they lift a finger then they will feel like they are caged and will get out sooner rather than later.
What to do: It is not enough to simply let your man do what he pleases every now and then, but you need to make him feel that you support and encourage him in what he does. For instance, if he hasn't met with his pals in a few days, tell him to go for a night out with his friends. He'll be shocked at what an understanding woman he has and that helps to rid him of his fear of commitment.
- Relationship Maker 2: Wanting, not needing
A man gets a huge high when he knows that he is the one-and-only for his woman. But, when this adoration makes you needy and clingy, that's when he wants to break it off.
What to do: Make your man feel like he is the only man for you but don't make him feel like he is everything for you. Show and tell him that you love being with him but even if you weren't, it would not be the end of the world. A confident and adoring woman who loves to be taken care of by her man, but who is equally capable of doing so herself is someone all men want to marry!
- Relationship Maker 3: Tulsi + Komolika = Perfect
No man wants his woman to be only a vixen like Komolika, yet no man wants his woman to be all goody-goody like Tulsi too. But a woman who has the ability to be both - fun and exciting with her lover, yet respectful and charming with friends and family; that's an unbelievable combination. Give him that and he'll want to keep you forever. (If he doesn't, there's certainly something wrong with him!)
What to do: Treat him to your naughty and nice sides equally. Not only does it take the pressure off you to be nice all the time, it also spices things up for him.
Coming up next week - How To Make A Woman Want To Marry You
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Ruchi Agarwal
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