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The Indian man today (and what women think)...
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Do you know that 57% of men support an equal partnership relationship in their marriage? 70% are watching their weight and 80% think that looks count! Well, at least according to a
recent survey commissioned by Spike TV in the USA.So, are these just numbers or can we co-relate some of these opinions to the Indian mindset and our very own desi male?
The real picture:
According to the survey, more men in America participate in household duties, and also similarly feel a greater degree of insecurity on their job front, perhaps, due to the tethering uncertainties related to the economics of today; career instability, greater stress in the workplace and a fast-paced lifestyle.
The survey states that expectations from men by society have become overwhelming. Men are expected to be successful, fit, good parents, good lovers, athletic, in control, communicative and sensitive. Say welcome to the new metrosexual male!
Changing times:
This boils down to important factors leading to changes that have taken place in the younger generation as opposed to the previous generation of their fathers and grandfathers.
So, have the criteria for the definition of male hood also shifted? The answer -- a big YES as the survey pointed to significant influences in society that have made an impact leading to marked changes in the traditional male role, his outlook about his own image as he sees it, and the view from the outside as others interpret these changes. This extends to his feelings about work, his inter-personal relationships and family, especially when contrasted to that of his father.
For the first time in history this generation of Indian men, especially in the urban centers are dealing with a situation where their wives work and where many live in a nuclear family environment as opposed to the old extended family system.
The American survey suggested the equality in the workforce has transcended into the partnership between men and women at home and that more men are actively involved in household duties.
The Indian opinion:
According to thirty-something actor Vindu Singh (son of famous wrestler Dara Singh) this new situation doesn't apply here. "It's changed in the cities and urban centers, but definitely not in the villages. Men doing housework in India doesn't really adhere with our typical mindset."
Mumbai-based businessman Suketu Parikh in his forties concurs, "Today's generation is more open; women and men are more giving today because I think they value marriage as an institution. Also, we have more social exposure."
"But it's still definitely a man's world despite the changes. We are not equal -- men still take most of the important decisions,"according to his wife Pragna Parikh. Although Pragna has played an active role in building her husband's business, she notes with a smile, "He hasn't played the same pivotal role on the house front. Although times are a changing and wives expect more from their husbands, certain responsibilities remain unchanged."
Actress, Kiran Sippy, wife of film producer/director, Ramesh Sippy, believes, "It's up to the individuals. The ideal situation where a woman can be assertive, where she can work and yet look after her house and where she is not exploited is still disputable. Today, it's important for a man to work. He has to work to be a good husband, father and bring in the bread while a woman can choose to work."
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