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Is monogamy outdated?
Should one behave in a monogamous manner?
Renowned hairdresser Ayesha Riazuddin, instructor of L'Oreal Professional Paris says, "If one is not monogamous one tends to lose direction and starts leading a confused life. Getting in and out of relationships is simply time consuming and stressful. No man or woman can promise one another eternal love if they don't want to be in a permanent relationship." Adds Digonta, "Monogamy will fulfill you more spiritually than physically. Besides if not being monogamous becomes the norm the human race may be wiped out as AIDS may become as common as common cold."
Sociologist Usha Venkataraman supports monogamy especially in marital bonds because, "Monogamy produces the highest type of affection and sincere devotion for one's spouse as both the father and the mother can give their earnest attention to their offspring." Chrisann says, "Psychologically and sociologically speaking monogamy has tremendous benefits. Research has shown that a monogamous union, with it's stability and security is a powerful defense against illness and premature death. In the 1930s, British anthropologist J.D. Unwin studied 86 cultures that stretched across 5,000 years. He found, without exception, when they restricted sex to marriage, they thrived. But not one culture survived more than three generations after turning sexually permissive. Noted Harvard sociologist Pitirim Sorokin found no culture surviving once it ceased to support marriage and monogamy."
The hormone of monogamy:
Keeping morals, values, ethics, laws and social norms aside it seems that monogamy will not disappear from the world altogether due to oxytocin-hormone found in humans and other mammals, which is involved in the facilitation of birth and breastfeeding as well as in bonding and the formation of trust between people. Adds Chrisann, "This neurochemical, oxytocin, nicknamed 'the cuddle hormone', lessens the effects of stress, eases cravings and acts as a natural antidepressant. When we produce it, we even have a measurable calming effect on those around us! Kissing, generous touch, such as stroking or massage, conscious and affectionate nurturing of another, all raise the levels of this bonding, nurturing neurochemical. Most importantly, oxytocin increases sexual desire and the attraction between familiar partners-mates - but not between unfamiliar partners. So oxytocin is also the 'hormone of monogamy.' So no wonder monogamous unions benefit us."
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