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Stop Snooping! I've Got Nothing To Hide
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There is a fine line between sharing and snooping.
There are those who debate about whether partners should tell each other 'everything,' of consequence, that is. An important aspect that usually crops up in such debates relates to the concept of celebrating togetherness by infusing a little space into it.
Does that sound contradictory, or confusing?
Does the situation warrant suspicion?
It isn't really. It simply means that thanks to trusting each other, you don't need to go into the petty details of everyday life and thus save that energy for when you're together. Here's an example to illustrate the point - Reena married Rajesh six months ago. It was an arranged marriage. Well, partially arranged, you could say. They had known each other since childhood as their fathers had been batch-mates, and met every now and then. These visits were always a riot - thanks to Rajesh being handsome and fun-loving! So when the subject of marriage to Rajesh was brought up by her parents, let's just say that Reena figured being married to Rajesh would mean a lifetime of enjoyable togetherness.
Post-marriage, Reena relocated from Mumbai to Delhi. Fortunately, the advertising company she worked for had offices in both cities so she suffered no heartburn about losing her job in the bargain!
It was a few months later that Reena woke up to the strangeness of their togetherness, that stemmed from Rajesh believing that something fishy was going on even when there wasn't even the faintest trace of anything underhand.
The possessive-jealous kind is most likely to snoop
It started so subtly that it took her some time to figure out his moves. You see - one thing Reena learnt about Rajesh after marriage is that he was SO possessive about the people and things he loved.
She thought she could live with that, especially since it had its good points. He was very caring, always ready to pick her up at odd hours after work as they had yet to buy a car for her too. Rajesh also never cribbed about helping with chores at home. He was super-loving - in the first few months of their marriage, he'd send her sweet SMS's on the hour, every hour when she was at work. Initially, she thought this was cute. Then when her boss' eyebrows rose at her cell's frequent beeping during meetings, she switched her phone on silent mode. But not wanting to hurt Rajesh, she said nothing to him.
"He'll grow out of it," she thought.
Killing me softly, with his song
The funny part was that since she couldn't SMS Rajesh back, when she reached home and was fixing dinner, he'd innocently say... "Did you read my second (or third or whatever) SMS? Or were you too busy? Here, give me your cell. I'll read it to you while you're working."
Of course, he would read out the SMS and give her a loving hug too, before helping to lay the table. But after reading his SMS's to her, he would swiftly proceed to read all her incoming SMS's as well as run through her call lists!
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