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Thank God for miracles!
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This is a personal and moving account of a young thirty-something couple living in a Mumbai suburb, wherein they share their experience and feelings regarding adoption with ShaadiTimes, largely from the wife's point of view:
"Infertility. A word that scares the daylight out of almost every one. It is a challenge to a man's ego and a curse for a woman.
 But this was not the case with my husband and I. My husband was always of the opinion that when we have a child of our own (be it a boy or girl) we would go ahead and adopt another baby of the opposite sex, thus making our family complete.
Sadly enough, we did not have a baby of our own for many years and when we decided to adopt a baby, it was like a wish come true for my husband. I was a bit apprehensive as I was not sure how I would react to some one, who is not my own flesh and blood, (my orthodox upbringing made me hesitate). But after a lot of thinking, I just left it to God and maybe what people say is right... miracles do happen!
This miracle took place, when we were sitting in the small office of the adoption centre. I did not know what to expect. I was going through mixed feelings of fear, apprehension and so on. While waiting there to see the baby, I felt millions of eons were passing by. The wait was terrible. And finally when the Sister did fetch the baby, from my vantage point I could only see only two tiny feet peeking out of the white cloth napkin she was wrapped up in.
Halleluiah. Without even seeing the baby, I knew in that single eternal moment, she was ours. No flesh, no blood, no relation...but she was already a part of me. And when I took her in my arms, the tears just would not stop, those tears of my eternal happiness and bliss, tears that just washed away all my feelings of apprehension, fear and unhappiness. I was filled with such pride that words could not describe. This baby was looking at us so lovingly. I just wanted to pick up my bundle of joy and run away to my house and give her so much love that no one can ever think of. I never thought there was so much love in me...
We got her home immediately. We had left our house as a couple in the morning and when we returned in the evening, we were the proud parents of a beautiful angel. A childless couple had become a winsome threesome! I don't know what people would say to this, it might seem a bit odd to those who do not know the experience I am struggling to describe, but somehow we felt very accepted in her life, rather than the other way around.
Today we have reached such a stage that we do not want a child of our own. Maybe it is being selfish, but I just can't think of sharing my love with anybody else.
My own experience prompts me to urge everyone in a similar situation to definitely give preference to adoption, rather than making the rounds of doctors and temples and unnecessarily wasting time money and precious emotional energy. There is a whole world of lovable children out there, awaiting your loving embrace. You just have to take that one decisive step towards them, remembering they cannot walk towards you. I am sure you will not regret it. Many a times, we hear people telling us "Wow, you have done a very noble thing and your daughter is very lucky to have wonderful and loving parents like you." We always respond by telling them we have done nothing great. In fact we are the lucky ones because she has come into our lives. Sorry, we have not adopted her, rather she has adopted us. In fact today we don't even remember that she is adopted. We are trying to raise her as nothing else but a good human being. And we are sure that she is one.
Every morning when we see her smiling face, there are just two words that come to our mind: Thank God!"
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