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Whose money is it anyway? - Part II
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« continued from Part - I
Anjoli's monetary support for her mother and brother brought forth a spew of responses from our readers - from You.
Most of you were vehement in your approval of Anjoli's behaviour.Sanjeet has acquired demi-God status for his sensitive and understanding support of his wife's commitments - especially amongst the women. And Sanjeet's parents are the villains of the piece.
Yet, the consistent strain that follows through much of the feedback from Shaaditimes readers (from You) is that Anjoli should not tell her mother about the debate raging in her house.
- If it is so acceptable for Anjoli to support her mother, why the need to hide it?
- Why would Anjoli's mother refuse financial support from Anjoli when she has nothing to be ashamed of?
Perhaps, the fact we are not ready to accept yet is that we - as Indians - have all grown up on a diet of 'your daughter's money is not your own' and 'beti ke ghar ka paani bhi nahin peena'. Whether it's popular Hindi cinema that is responsible for propagating this attitude or our own parents and grandparents - I cannot say.
What perhaps we all need to do is take a look within ourselves and 'Be Honest'.
- Do our parents share the same attitude as Sanjeet's?
Mine do.
- Would you be comfortable accepting support from your daughter?
Actually, I would. I hope I never have to (and that's what life insurance is for), but God knows, I would ask her for help if I had to.
- Would you accept that support if it came despite resistance from her in-laws?
Now I'm not so sure anymore. I certainly hope her in-laws are not so orthodox, but if they are… I'm no longer certain what my reaction would be.
- Would you, in place of Anjoli, offer support to your mother despite resistance from your in-laws?
Darn well, YES!
- Would your spouse be ok with it?
Now there's a topic to discuss at the dinner table!
All things not withstanding, it sure is a relief to see that as a community, Indians are taking their traditions into the 20th century. We still appreciate that taking care of our elders is our responsibility - and now, that responsibility is being borne by sons and daughters.
Kudos to all and lets hear it for Anjoli and Sanjeet. Cheers!
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