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Does Your Partner Need A Makeover?
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Has your relationship lost its sheen? If so, could it possibly be because your partner needs a makeover?
''I love Nina but definitely not her hair! Her hairstyle is so old-fashioned. It looks just the same as it did fifteen years ago when we first met...'' - Rohan, married 15 years
''He's no longer got the great body he had when we married. I try to ignore it, but his paunch really puts me off...'' - Sheetal, married only three years
Oops - these statements came from respondents who agreed with our premise that a marriage doesn't renew itself by default.
Is the magic alive?
Fact is - a relationship is but a coming together of two persons desirous of being in each others company and hence willing to give it their all. More often than not, the feeling of staleness in a twosome comes from the partners not realizing that they're not infusing sufficient energy into themselves and hence, into keeping the magic of their togetherness alive.
If this leaves you wondering whether love should be equated with looks, we suggest you get real! Every relationship has many facets - looks is just one of these.
Looks count for a lot
But in our modern age, looks count for a lot. It's a give and take process. If Nina has no interest in her appearance, why should her partner Rohan feel enthused when he sees her? According to Rohan, Nina badly needed a makeover and what's more, he was willing to pay a packet for it!
Likewise, Sheetal felt her husband Dinesh badly needed to take himself in hand, not only for his sake, but hers too!
Are you in the same position, as Nina or Dinesh, and worse, don't know it? Or are you secretly a Rohan or Sheetal, wondering whether you are right to be thinking of a makeover for your partner?
Run through this check-list to know where you stand:
- Your sex life is non-existent or reduced to a chore: This suggests that either or both of you need to think about what signal you're sending out - both in your behavior as well as your appearance. 'Do I look hot?' - stand in front of a full-length mirror and ask yourself this question. While there is no need nor is it possible for you to always look red-carpet worthy, ask yourself whether you are capable of that look and if you'd go to the trouble of looking hot for your partner on special occasions.
- You / your partner prefers attending office events alone: The office encourages partners to attend events together but you find yourself (or your partner) preferring to go it alone because you (he / she) feel let-down by your partner's lack of interest in making some effort to look the part.
- You feel yourself admiring other peoples' partners: Okay, so you may not lust after them, but your eyes do stray. And you find yourself wishing that your wife would learn to apply make-up instead of just using that boring dark red lipstick! Or you wish your husband would get in shape.
- You know your partners wardrobe like the back of your hand: It can be very boring to always know in advance what your partner will look like, for say an anniversary celebration dinner. We suggest that when you buy a new outfit, don't make a habit of showing it to your partner. Store it in your wardrobe and spring a surprise at the right moment.
- Your friends comment on the disparity between your looks: Sometimes people say, "So-and-so's wife looks so homely, while he has such a suave appearance." If the homeliness sticks out like a sore thumb at social occasions, it can be really disconcerting.
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