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The husband is always right. Right?
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They were the stars of the college's debating society. Always on the opposite sides. Soha and Amit didn't seem to agree on any issue, be it politics or sports. Sometimes it seemed they argued just for the sheer pleasure of it. If one liked A, it was almost mandatory for the other to like B. So it was a matter of wonder to their friends and also great relief to their parents when Soha and Amit agreed on the date of their wedding.
"People say one should never lose one's fighting spirit, so I married Soha," Amit said jokingly. "Hah, he was embarrassed about losing in public all the time, so he brought the winner home," Soha retorted.
Whatever may be the reason, they got married and seemed quite happy with each other. Of course, marriage was not the reason to stop arguing. That battle continued in day-to-day life.
There are men who don't like an argumentative wife. They call such a woman quarrelsome. But Amit was definitely not one of them. He liked and admired Soha's independent spirit. He even enjoyed his occasional defeat in the battle of words with Soha. He was proud of his wife who spoke her mind without fear and with sound logic.
However, as the years went by, a subtle change took place in Amit's behaviour. He still enjoyed locking horns with Soha, but didn't like it when she ended up having the last and the victorious word. Once cool Amit now started getting impatient and even illogical sometimes while arguing with her. And now he had brought out a new weapon in their verbal duels - his high-pitched voice. Every time Amit thought Soha was getting the better of him, his voice went up. Soha's point of view started getting drowned under Amit's loud and angry voice. She could never win this shouting contest.
One thing led to another and the worst stage came when Amit became downright insulting to Soha when discussing issues. They would be talking normally and all of a sudden Amit would raise his voice and stop Soha in the middle of her sentence. "Aw shut up now", "You don't understand", "Don't be stupid" were some of the words that Amit rarely used in the past but which Soha heard often now.
Slowly Amit was turning into one of those folks who just liked to hear their own voice. It didn't matter anymore whether they were arguing or normally expressing their thoughts on the same issue. Amit didn't let Soha speak much. It happened in private, it happened in front of others. Amit didn't think twice before humiliating his wife in public. Friends, who once enjoyed the couple's good-natured banter, now began to feel uneasy. Most of them felt that Amit was being unfair, but who would tell him?
Soha tried, but failed. "Are you telling me that I am suppressing you, not letting you speak?" Amit thundered when Soha tried to draw his attention to his changed tone. "I speak because I have something sensible to say. I don't beat around the bush, unlike you," he said adding insult to injury.
For a while Soha tried to avoid arguments with Amit, but she couldn't always curb her desire to express herself. And then Amit would rush in full throttle. She felt humiliated when she was talking to somebody and all of a sudden Amit would jump in with his views. Soha would be forced to turn into a dumb listener then. Of course, if she kept quiet for a long time, Amit would turn and say, "Why, did the cat get your tongue? Or, I think, you don't have anything to say, eh?"
Amit still wanted people to know that he had a very intelligent wife, but of course he was better. He started the arguments but with an unsaid condition. He should win.
I had been a witness to the changing scenario between this couple over the years. Then one day when I, along with some other friends went to Soha's place, I saw another kind of change. As usual some discussion started, where everybody had something to say. And it was no wonder that as the arguments progressed, there remained just two people slugging it off. Frankly speaking, the logic was on Soha's side that evening. Perhaps Amit too realised this, but he was not going to accept defeat. We saw the flashing signs in his eyes and prepared for the lightning and thunder. But as soon as he opened his mouth to shout, Soha turned to him and said, "Oh dear, but you are right." Amit's mouth snapped shut. He couldn't believe that Soha was giving in even when she seemed to have more to say. The discussion ended abruptly when Soha said in the most sincere voice, "Oh it was so silly of me not to understand." Amit snorted but didn't say anything more on that subject. |
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