|
Forgive and forget
|
After eight years of marriage, the wife caught her husband cheating. Perhaps, cheating is too harsh a word for a singe lapse, for a one-night stand. But it happened and spoiled everything.
The man had gone abroad for a business conference where he met a lady - almost the same age, in the same profession, with same interests... and both were lonesome in the strange foreign land. One thing led to another and they ended up spending a night together.
One-night stand
The conference ended the next day and so did their short-lived relationship. Both went back to their respective homes and families. After a few days, the wife somehow got a whiff of what had happened. The husband when confronted confessed and apologised. "Sorry', he said, and meant it too. He had shared special intimate moments with another woman though he loved his wife dearly. He didn't try to escape by giving excuses, but conceded that it was a lapse on his part. 'Please forgive me', he had begged.
Recurring hurt
Of course it was not easy for the wife. Naturally, she was upset and angry. For days she gave him hell, but ultimately decided to forgive him his one lapse. 'Let bygones be bygones', they both agreed. It seemed that peace was finally restored in their house and lives. Unfortunately, forgiving is not the same as forgetting. This sad incident took place nearly two years back, but the wife who did (or had to) forgive could not forget. Nor did she let the spouse forget his sin. Even now, time and again, the wife brings it up - directly or indirectly - during petty household quarrels or in conversation with close friends.
'Oh, I know what a man can do... or, oh, I know what you are capable of doing behind my back', she would say hinting at her husband, and the husband would be forced to give in meekly to any argument they would be having. This has become a potent weapon for the woman to run down her husband, to be used anytime. For a while, it worked and to some extent is still working, but what the wife doesn't realise is that she is overdoing it. The husband is losing his patience now.
Target for taunts
The last time this happened, he couldn't control himself. A few close friends were sitting and somehow the topic of infidelity in marriage came up. Everybody had something to say. The conversation had really become interesting with many different points of view. All of a sudden our woman sighed dramatically and said, 'come on, we all know what men are capable of doing and how women suffer, but still forgive'. Although she didn't look at her husband directly, we all knew who the target of her comments was. There was an uncomfortable silence for a while. Before someone could change the topic and lighten the mood, the husband said, 'if you can't forget, why do you claim to have forgiven me'?
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Ask our Experts :
Personality Development, Immigration (US), Tarot, Hot Couture, Face Value, Matrimonial Laws, Infertility, Life, etc, Gender Wars, Shaping Up. |
|
 |
|
Copyright © 1999-2010 shaaditimes.com - A relationship and Indian wedding portal by Shaadi.com. - All Rights Reserved.
All trademarks, logos and names are properties of their respective owners.
|
