|
An Affair To Remember...
|
 Both of them are romantics, but their romantic dreams are a bit different from each other. She wants a dream wedding. He wants a dream honeymoon. Unfortunately both dreams are difficult to fulfill at the same time. They have to make a choice. The groom's mind is made up. Let's hear the girl's side of the story.
Ever since I was a little girl in pigtails, I have dreamt about my wedding day. I was not even born when Lady Diana got married to Prince Charles. But I have seen their pictures innumerable times. And every time I did it would be like, "Wow, shaadi ho to aisi !''
Although I am Hindu, I would fantasize about wearing a white gown with a long trail, a diamond tiara on my head, walking on a carpet of flowers. Of course instead of heads of states from around the world, I saw film stars as the guests and performing artists in my wedding party. My prince would arrive sitting on a tall white stallion, accompanied by dancing baratis. As I grew up the traditional band guys were replaced by some hotshot DJ in my fantasy.
Alas, now I have found my prince, who is more handsome than Prince Charles, and I am sure more loving than that old guy. But he doesn't share my fantasy, as far as the wedding ceremony is concerned. He balks at the idea of grand weddings. He calls them multi-ring circuses. He doesn't even want traditional rituals. "We can call the marriage registrar home and get married in the presence of a few close relatives and friends. I don't want to turn the most beautiful day of my life into a tiresome public function," he says.
When I first heard these words, I thought he was joking. We both come from financially sound families. Our engagement ceremony before five months was held in a suburban five star hotel. Then all of a sudden, why this change of heart?
He agrees with the words 'change of heart'. According to him when he started scouting for our honeymoon destination, he saw this lovely place on the Internet that seemed out of this world and out of budget for most of the people. There and then he had this so-called change of heart.
"I visualized hundreds of guests crowding up a room, strangers smiling blankly, food tables featuring dozens of dishes as in some fun fare, expensive floral decorations getting wilted, both of us looking like over made up actors... and I then imagined just two of us, flying first class to that beautiful, exotic island, longing on the pristine beach, just wearing swim suits and sipping champagne. There was no contest, then," he says.
In short, he now wants to save money on the wedding ceremony and splurge it all on the honeymoon. He thinks he is being romantic, but I am not so sure. Having a honeymoon on some exotic, unheard place sounds fine, but at the cost of a big wedding here? I proposed that we have a lavish wedding here and then go to Switzerland or Italy that can be as lovely if not as exotic as that island.
Our parents can afford it. But he now finds everything associated with lavish weddings, wrong. He considers it all a waste of money.
"Everybody knows that we have money, we don't have to show off," he declared flatly when his parents tried telling him that this was what was expected from them when their only son got married.
My mother is involved with social causes like saving the environment and helping street children. She naturally finds it difficult to argue with her son-in-law's point of view. But I know that even she had great plans for the wedding. Now she can't say that let the boy's side be as simple as possible but we will splurge, right?
I guess, ultimately I too would agree to my man's plans. I love him and I also know that we would have a wonderful honeymoon. But then sometimes I think, I am going to marry just once, then why can't it be an affair to remember?
|
|
|
Varsha Pathak
|
|
|
|
|
| |
 |
|
|
|
|
|
| | Lanvin for Men | Fastrack Watch For Men | Classic Combo | Rs.1,795 ($37.29) | | | | Rs.1,705 ($35.42) | Rs.1,095 ($22.75) | Rs.1,733 ($36.00) | |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Ask our Experts :
Personality Development, Immigration (US), Tarot, Hot Couture, Face Value, Matrimonial Laws, Infertility, Life, etc, Gender Wars, Shaping Up. |
|
 |
|
Furl it
Reddit
Readers comment
