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A sonnet - Medha and Anup Jalota
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When Anup Jalota married Medha both had a failed marriage behind of them and cynics had predicted disaster.  Eight years later they are still together and at their happiest best. They are also blessed with a son, Aryamaan.
They are a lesson in true love. Medha and Anup have been through tough times but have emerged winners. Some time back Medha was diagnosed with cardiomyopathy - a degenerative heart muscle condition - she could barely hope to survive. She bounced back after a successful heart transplant and today the Jalotas are a happy couple. This crisis has brought them even closer and helped them reinforce their love for each other.
We present Medha and Anup Jalota, a couple who fit our slug, Made for each other, like a hand in a glove.
Excerpts from their interview.
How did you meet Medha?
Medha was a student of Pandit Jasraj. She was part of his troupe when I first saw her. It was perhaps love at first sight. When I realized that she was single and even I was single at that moment of time, I proposed to her. She took a few days to think it over but agreed much later. Maybe it was her innocence and simplicity that attracted me to her. After eight years of marriage nothing has changed between us. I still love her smile and simplicity.
How is it being married to each other?
Anup: It's like marrying someone who is exactly like you. We both have the same likes and dislikes, share preferences on food, similar ethics, culture. We are both passionate about music, which is our spice of life. We share an open and honest relationship. I tell her everything under the sun. We do everything together, whether it is buying curtains for the home or making financial decisions. I don't know what I would have done without her in my life.
Medha: He is a very easy man to live with. He is the only man I know who has given up his anger. He just doesn't get angry any more. He is just perfect for me, though he came in my life much later as we were both previously married. I believe life is a journey, you meet people and at times you move forward leaving them. You feel you have made decisions not worth, but then you meet that 'one' person who changes the meaning of your life and you once again start believing in destiny. Anup is the man who brought immense happiness in my life. He is just not my husband but my friend.
Very often couples split when faced with a crisis. You two have come even closer to each other. What is the reason?
Anup: Confidence in each other. I had complete faith in myself that I would bring her back. On her part she knew I would not let her go. When you know that there is a thin line between life and death, you feel completely helpless and afraid. But what brings hope is an inner faith that you will win over death. When the doctors here had given up on Medha, she thought of coming home and spending whatever time she had with Aryamaan. But I was determined that there has to be some way out. I believe immensely in God and I knew that he was testing me. I was completely broke financially. The treatment on Medha cost me more than what I earned in my life. However this incident has brought me even closer to Medha.
 Medha: Yes, I agree. I too know a couple that faced a similar situation where the wife was ill and her husband found solace with another woman. He left his wife and eventually they split. I think it's when one of the partners becomes weak during a crisis that a relationship gets affected.
At such times instead of resenting and drifting away a couple should find a solution. They need to look in the same direction, which brings togetherness. In my case, I was ill and Anup did not resent this neither did he get away from me. He was more focused on work, as he had to make money for my operation. He did not lose heart and took refuge in other things.
Did his previous marital status not make you feel insecure?
Medha: Not at all. If I would be insecure I would not have married him in the first place. As I said at times things don't work the way you want them to but you move ahead. It was the same with us. Though Anup came in my life much later, I know he is the one who is truly made for me. He has been with me during the most difficult phase of my life- my heart surgery. Love just does not mean having to hold hands or whispering sweet words and becoming weak during tough times. But the true test of love is when you face suffering yet hold hands and don't lose hope. It is to feel the pain and happiness together.
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