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The newest Bahu : Raveena Tandon
Continuing her tete e tete with ShaadiTimes, the very candid Raveena speaks about love, heartbreak, marriage, life, and her honeymoon.
Real-life Role
 It's a myth that I now have less time for work. On the contrary, it's the other way round. The professional demands take my time off from my responsibilities as a wife! But fortunately, Anil understands. He knows that he has caught me midway. He has not caught me at a time when I was retiring!
But I do plan to slow down on my work. I plan to do one - or two-odd films in a year. I am still thinking this one out. I may just stop doing films completely. I will do a film only if I really get enthusiastic about it... something that's worthwhile. These days, I don't even feel enthusiastic to get up and go for shootings... I have to get back into the groove. That's why I shall do only those films that excite me.
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Why should marriage change anything? After marriage, Anil and I have become only closer... and inseparable.
A lot of people get married just for the sake of it, and later repent. Then there are a lot of people who don't get married when the time is right. It is all about timing. People used to tell me that it's high time I got married - that it is not sensible to wait. But I was waiting for the right thing to happen. I might never have got married if it didn't happen, but fortunately for me, it did.
Marriage, for me, was not a passing fancy. You should get married when you are ready to get married. It all depends on how badly you want to marry that person.
Happy Marriages
I don't believe that in marriage love has to fade after the initial flush. Happiness in a marriage depends on individuals. I have learnt this from my parents' successful marriage of 37 years. My brother had a ‘love marriage' with Raakhi, and I see no change in their relationship since they got married. They are still best of friends, love each other a lot, and party with same friends. In my case, too, things haven't changed, if anything we have become inseparable after marriage.
Marriage is not the ultimate road to happiness, but it makes me feel complete today. Though I had everything going for me, to some extent one little jigsaw of the puzzle was missing somewhere. Now the puzzle is complete.
Honeymoon
We went to Malaysia, Indonesia and Maldives. We wanted to go some place that was not very far. Some place, which was exotic and away from people, like in Maldives. The whole place is an island and our cottage was in the middle of the sea. Room service and other services were all carried in a boat. It was a 20-day trip... but we never wanted to come back... (laughs). We will soon find time to go on another trip.
'Stupid heartbreak'
After my first heart-break, when my engagement broke, I became a much better person. I realised there is lot more to life than crying over a broken affair. Actually, the realisation came in a strange way. I was moping around after my engagement broke. I was depressed for nights and used to go for long drives.
One rainy night, I was driving down the Tulsi Pipe road with sloppy music playing on my car stereo in true filmi style. There were hutments on the either side of the road. It was pouring cats and dogs and I had to slow down. This gave me an opportunity to peep inside these huts. What I saw there made me ask what I was crying about? A man was beating his wife, an infant was sitting on the pavement in the pouring rain crying his eyes out, and a woman was trying to cover her leaking hut with a plastic sheet... I cannot express the sight. I had seen a completely different life that night. I thought I should thank God for what I have, rather than cry over a stupid heartbreak!
Turning point
That's when I completely took a double take and started doing lots of social work, much more than what I did earlier. Earlier I would do it as a star, but then I started doing it as a volunteer.
That day completely changed me. I have lovely parents and family who love me, I have a good house, cars, loving friends; I have everything. Then what was I crying for? To be honest, it is a very selfish thing to look at others' sorrow and become happy for yourself. But fortunately, it made a better person out of me. Life's PhilosophyI always sing this song from the film Chalti ka naam gaadi... jaan bachi to lakhon paye.. laut ke buddhu ghar ko aaye... jaan bachi to... (Bursts into laughter).
« Read what Raveena had to say on love and work
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