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Milind Soman pours his heart out
Milind Soman, a name synonymous with the fashion world, is still perhaps the country's first super model, who changed the entire facet of the Indian modelling scenario. Hailing from a traditional middle class Maharashtrian family, Milind went on to become a super model, little realizing that he would become every girl's idol.
 From an athlete to a model to an actor and now a producer, Milind has made many moves as a professional. A lot has been written about his professional career but little is known about the real Milind. All set to release his first film as a producer, Rules (pyar ka superhit formula) Milind is on a roll.
In a heartfelt with ShaadiTimes, Milind spoke on love, marriage and the only woman in his life. Here's from the man who is truly ‘Made in India!'
On Love
I strongly believe that a relationship between a man and a woman can only evolve and thrive when there is a mutual positive feeling between the two. A feeling that generates an affirmative vibe for the other person; making him/her feel needed and appreciated. I don't infer one-sided love to mean anything either. One-sided love is more of an obsession, as the other person doesn't necessarily reciprocate in the same manner.
On Friendship
A friend, like a diamond, is forever. I have always believed that 'one loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives'. Unlike love, you don't easily fall for friendship. Though it takes a great of effort to find a good friend, for me a friend is someone who just listens to you. He/she has no judgments to make towards you, nor do they become defensive in an argument, which could happen in the case of love. Besides, in friendship you don't have resentments and expectations to meet up with. I am 38 now and I have two to three friends since the past fifteen years now and we have been together ever since. I know they will stand beside me no matter what.
 On Marriage
Marriage is definitely not for me. When I was going steady with my girl friend I did think of marriage, but that was only because her parents wanted us to be settled. But after our break-up, I never really fell for anyone. Though in an industry like this where you tend to find beautiful faces everywhere, I haven't still thought of marriage or love.
Live-in Relationships
I don't see any difference between a live- in- relation and a marriage, except the fact that a marriage is bound by paper. Even in live-in relationships, there is a sense of responsibility towards the other person, similar to marriage. You are answerable to what you are doing, where you are going, in the same manner as you would in marriage. Even in a live- in- relation, you share everything from your bed to your soul. You wash clothes, help in with the cooking, share responsibilities. One may feel that it is easy to get out of a live-in relation; I mean all you do is pack and leave. But then that can also happen in case of marriage. I can say with experience.
On Breaking-Up
There's a lot of resentment, bitterness and rejection. Mentally and emotionally at first, you are not willing to accept the fact that you are no more a couple. It becomes difficult to get on with life too as after all these years of togetherness, you suddenly come to terms, that from now on, ‘you are alone'. But then time heals wounds. You move on. You realize the value of relationships. How you can't afford to take relations for granted. At times the wounds do disappear but the scars remain. Somehow you're not willing to share yourself again with anyone anymore. But then sometimes you just have to let go.
Love – Once in a Lifetime
I do not believe in the philosophy of once-in-a-lifetime love. You can fall in love innumerable times. After you breakup, you may find someone else, compelling you to fall in love again. Its also possible that you might have found better qualities in this person that your previous partner.
Post-Breakup
If the relation is broken with hurt and bitterness, there are lesser chances of the couple being friends again. The fear of facing the other person could be menacing, what with the anger of betrayal seething through. However, if the relation is mutually broken then there are greater chances of friendship.
But then that could only happen once all the rejection and bitterness has faded away. After I broke up with my girl friend I was totally heart broken. There was extreme resentment and pain. But then later on we did become friends. Although she's happily married and lives abroad, we do meet up and talk whenever she comes to India. Actually, we are more of friends now. It's also true that after her, I have never fallen in love with any one.
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Natasha Havewala
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